Sir June Gay Bar

Last Saturday, I was in an adventurous mood that I took the time to visit a gay bar in the heart of Pasig called Sir June.

I have heard that there was a gay bar along Ortigas Extension but never got around to find and visit it. It lies along Ortigas Extension and one can say it is discreetly located that you cannot distinguish it from the videoke bars in the area. The night I went to this establishment they had a special show called "Hamog sa Tag-Init" (which roughly translates to Dew of Summer) so I was revved up with the promise of a special show.



I got there at 10:30pm. Well, it did say on the banner outside that the show will start at 10pm so I was fashionably late. Guess what? It did not. As it turns out, there was only one other group who got there before and the show has not yet started. I was thinking it was a slow night or this was how it was in this bar. The show did start at 11pm with 12 guys wearing black undershirt and maong shorts in their bare feet gyrating on the stage one after the other in sleezy music. After 12midnight, when most gay bars start to have their dancers start stripping off all their clothes, I was expecting the expected. Their second set costume consisted of their underwear and boots. Their special show for the night was a sort-of competition between 3 of their younger models.

All in all, the place was clean enough with the comfort room, though a bit rustic, was properly maintained. The air conditioner was not enough to fully ventilate the bar that they need ceiling fans to assist in cooling their patrons. Prices are reasonable considering it was a Saturday and they supposedly have a special show. There was no actual menu but they do offer some finger food, just inquire with the waiters. The bar tolerates smokers and provides an ash tray upon settling down in your table. Their floor manager was accomodating, much as their dancers who strike a conversation towards enticing you to purchase a macho drink. My expectations were quite high since I have been to other gay bars and expected an exciting show. Of the limited number of macho dancers that they featured, only two were good looking. From the two, only one stood out because he had equally sexy body and was more than happy to display it. It was a let down that when they were gyrating on the stage some were wearing underwear that were loose. Usually, macho dancers will wear the skimpiest outfits, if not, nothing at all to thrill their audience. In this case, they were neither flattering to the dancer nor enticing to those who were watching them. I guess because of my expectations of gay bars, I had a heightened expectation of a lot of flesh exposures. I left by 3am and at that time only 2 of their macho dancers had shown their wares.



It was not such a bad field trip. Maybe I'll drop by again one of these days.






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The phone-in-between trick

I’ve already shared two discreet (but maybe inconvenient) ways of exchanging phone numbers with another guy. One is leaving a card or a piece of paper in sight of the other guy, and the other is doing hand signals. I’ll share another way and that is what I call the phone-in-between trick.

Basically, you sit beside each other and one of you will place his phone between the two of you while both of you are doing some other thing. The other guy will then pick up the phone and key in his number (and optionally the name) then place it back down for the other guy get. That’s all there is to it.

I learned of this trick when I was in the locker room of spa that shall remain unnamed. I had been exchanging glances with this stocky hunky chinito in the wet area, when I decided to sit down at a bench in the locker room to cool off for a bit. After a while, the guy went to the locker room to get dressed and leave the spa. After going to his locker, he then sat beside me while drying his feet and then placed his cellphone on the bench between us. I glanced at his phone and saw that it was unlocked and I took that as a hint, especially when I realized that he could have placed his phone on the other side. So I then discreetly entered my phone number and then my name into his phone. After a bit, he picked up the phone, looked at it, gave me a small smile, and stood up to get dressed. Easy as pie!

It’s definitely easier to just ask for a guy’s number straight out, but in places where you need to be discreet and to not attract attention, tricks like these are better and, frankly, much more fun! :-)




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Theater Cruising

Have you visited a moviehouse not to check out the movie being shown but to pick up or be picked up? Have you had encounters in a dingy cinema which features movies out of current circulation?

I would admit, my very first encounter has been in a moviehouse in Quiapo. I was a late bloomer. I was strictly guarded by my parents and I would just be travelling from the house to the school and vice versa. It would not be until I got to college that I got to explore. I have heard of the old moviehouses in Quiapo and after a long period of mere curiousity, I got to experience it myself.

Back then, there were a lot of these moviehouses near Quiapo Church that show "bomba" films. Two were along Quezon Avenue at the same side as the church while another two were on the other side of the street. Three were nearer Isetan, along Recto while there were another two along Rizal Avenue. Many of these have already been closed or demolished but back then in the 80's, you can take your pick.

For the uninitiated, what would expect if you do take the excursion. Guys will normally be in the foyer area or near the comfort rooms. When you enter the cinema proper, it would normally be very dark, with hardly any track lighting so you really have to grope your way when finding a seat. The best seats for me is near the electric fans. The place can get hot and unless you have a spare shirt with you, you can get drenched with sweat.

If encounters in movie houses is not your peice of cake, various motels are located nearby but there is not assurance that they are any less dingy than the moviehouse you came from. Back when I was young and naive, I let others lead the way and take me where they wanted me to be but now older, and maybe wiser, I would rather be in a comfortable place. I have heard some modus operani that people get cornered by their hook ups because the owner of the motel conspire with the conmen.

It is a gamble when meeting people in these kind of places so always be careful. You don't have anything to hold against them - no picture, no identification. It might be safer to chat and start with a date then progress from there. However, if anonymity and the possibility of danger is what brings you thrill, then these encounters will probably give you a boost.

Though there are still moviehouses like those, even in Cubao, many have opted to cruise in more upscale cinemas like SM North Edsa or Megamall where staying in the backrow now would probably yield a hook up.

If you plan for an adventure, take care of your belongings. If possible, don't bring a watch or a cellphone. Don't bring a large amount of money and always be mindful where you drop your clothes because the floors can get sticky. Be happy but safe guys.





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John Matthews Salon

It was another Saturday. I wanted to get a massage especially since I have been so stressed at work and all. And I was not in any mood for a so-so massage. I have tried other spas, both legitimate and those that have masseurs that offer extra. One that I have been coming back to is the John Matthews Salon located near the corner of New York Street and E. Rodriguez in Cubao.



It is accessible from Cubao and lies within what I term as the Cubao gay men's triangle of sin (which I will discuss on a later post). John Matthews Salon, as the name implies, is basically a salon. Get your hair done, get a manicure or pedicure, puff up your face with make up kind of salon. A few such salons have integrated spa services to allow consumers a sort of one-stop shop for beauty services but they usually have it as a secondary service. Most spas focus on their services and rarely diversify to other offerings. It is rare that one could find a place that would focus on both services (salon and spa) and be good at both.


I am not one to put much airs in fixing myself up. I don't have lotions or creams. I rarely put anything on my hair to sculpt it. I usually trim my own nails. Mind you. I do get facials once in a while, but that's it. Getting a massage, now that's something else all together. I have tried out a lot of different places and have rarely found satisfaction with their services. Most legitimate massage places have small women stretching you, kneading your skin, trying to provide the right pressure but to no avail. Massage parlors, whether it is one where you select a masseur or masseuse from behind a (supposedly) one-way mirror, seldom are venues to experience a relaxing massage as these are venues that facilitate "extra services." In other words, it is not often to find one that satisfy your needs. Sorry, I am looking for one that offers hard massage, bordering on deep tissue massages so a light hand is not what I would look for in a therapist.


That is where the John Matthews Salon comes in. They do have female therapists but their male therapists are worth coming back for. There have been times where I have been lulled to sleep by their massages.


When I do have the time, which was last Saturday for me, I go out of my way and visit them. There have been times that they could not accommodate me because their masseurs are already booked for the night so calling in for a reservation or coming on afternoons would be better. They also have a combination of spa services that may provide for a more relaxing, satisfying time. These offerings include detoxifying, foot spas, hair and scalp treatments, facial masks and body scrubs.

The offering I availed was one that had a body scrub, a hair and scalp treatment and, of course, a body massage. It was worth it. Time-wise, it was two and a half hours well spent on pampering yourself. In terms of cost, I felt it wasn't a waste. For others who would like to try it, there are other treatment combinations that you could avail, depending on what you need.

I got there around 9:30pm. Their spa services are available until 1pm. There was only one available cubicle left when got in. And luckily enough as well, my usual masseur was the only one available. If he was not available, I was comfortable with trying out the others. I then proceeded to the locker area where I was to get my towel, slippers and shorts/robe, leaving my valuables, clothes and shoes inside the locker. I had a shower. The therapist led me towards a chair where he applied some concoction on my hair and scalp. He fastened some sort of towelette to make sure it does not drip and covered it up by a shower cap. We walked to our assigned cubicle to begin the body scrub. Similar to the massage, he start from the back of my legs then up to my back before scrubbing the back of my arms. Turning me over, he kept scrubbing up my legs to the groin area before the chest and arms. Covering me up and resting for around 10 minutes, I was then asked to return to the shower and make sure that I had removed all of the coarse material that helped rid of my body's dead skin cells. After I am all dried up, the masseur led me back to the massage table and with his magical hands explored my entire body. Using a firm hand and a strong pressure, he made an effort to sooth my swollen muscles. After doing some stretching, I was allowed to rest awhile. It was time for me to go.

I felt both relaxed and invigorated as I left their premises. It also seemed i was so clean and smooth because of the body scrub. That was time well spent. Quality time for myself. Quality pampering from John Matthews Salon.




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Before the Internet: Ayala Triangle

I’m always interested to hear how things were like for the hidden PLU community before the advent of widespread Internet. For sure, finding like-minded guys was a helluva lot harder then than it is in this day and age. Now we have plenty of online venues such as social networking sites, Internet relay chat (or IRC), and even blogs like Discreet Manila to provide us with tons of connections and information. Well, I’ve seen a documentary last year which showed how the gay community was in the United States in the 1970s, but I also want to see how things went here in the Philippines.

Before the Internet, I imagine that discreet cruising skills like the look or even silly ones like the leaving-your-card trick are one’s best assets for meeting other guys. From there, you get to build your set of gay PLU friends and you are then able to obtain news, and information on cruising spots and gay-friendly places from your network.




Anyway, thanks to this really enlightening (and old) blog post by the Corporate Closet, I had learned that one (surprising!) cruising spot back in the 1980s was Ayala Triangle in Makati. Who knew? Back then it was called Ugarte Field and that’s where you could meet upscale yuppies for quick sex or even just companionship. I guess it’s inevitable that gay guys would flock to dark parks in the same we gravitate to comfort rooms.

So, for the older guys out there, got any nostalgic stories to share, like CC?





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Mark That Fighter

Mark Striegl is a super hot Filipino-American mixed martial arts fighter. Born in 1988, he has been fighting a the URCC and he is currently based in Baguio city. He is probably the sexiest thing violence has ever conceived. Photos courtesy of his facebook fanpage.

Dreamboy Gay Bar

Another Saturday, another adventure. This time around my curiousity brought me to the Dreamboys Gay Bar located near the Betty Go Belmonte station. With its proximity to Cubao and being along Aurora Boulevard, it was quite easy to locate.


Why did I decide to visit this particular gay bar? I got an email through one of the yahoogroups I am subscribed to that they have a big night. It will be the Grand Finals of the Search for Mr. Dreamboy 2009. I almost did not go as I met some friends and it was difficult to get away from them and explain where I was headed. Luckily, I was able to escape and be at the bar by 12 midnight. As I mentioned on my blog about the Sir June Gay Bar, midnight is when their dancers start losing all their clothing. And in this case, I was expecting that the competition would be starting at that time.

Similar to my experience two weeks ago, I was early again. At least, this time around there were a number of patrons already in the venue. More than half the number of tables were occupied. It seems it was a big night indeed. The competition did not start yet but dancers were gyrating on the stage in trunks and they were either titillating the audience with the promise that a big one is lying erect under the thin cloth they are wearing or they leave nothing to the imagination. One after the another they strutted and teased up until half past 1 when the contest proper was on the way.

While waiting for the Search for Mr. Dreamboy 2009 to begin, I was approached by their floor manager to be a judge. Of course I accepted. I felt so priviledged to be asked but as I was not really on the out and out, I did not really provide my full name. There I was not only ready to enjoy the spectacle of seeing the gay bar's best of the best but also all set to objectively judge the candidates based on what the floor manager explained to me.

Once the pseudo-contest was on the way, my eye feasted on the eye candy parading in front of me. I half-expected to see more seasoned performers here especially since that was the impression from what I heard about this bar. Pleasantly surprised. As it turns out for 2009, they have rolled out invitations to newer macho dancers. They had their new wards compete for this year's Search for Mr. Dreamboy. They had an interesting array of participants - some on the muscular side, some almost twinky, a few a little chubby, some moreno, some fair - but all well-endowed and sexy. They were more than willing to up the ante as they tried to out-perform each other.

They started out with what they called as the national costume portion but I would hardly call these national costumes. The talent portion followed. That took quite some time since the dancers really made an effort in their performances. They had more costumes and back up dancers. I enjoyed each individual's efforts. Unlike my last gay bar trip,definitely all the macho dancers knew how to dance and none of them were stiff nor were they just going through their paces. All well-endowed, all flexible, all graceful. Since the talent portion took almost two hours, they rushed through the casual wear, swim wear and sports wear.

Around that time I realized that the competion was rigged. Because it tookso long, a few of the judges already left. We were also asked to contribute some money. From one of the dancers I got to talk to (and these were the ones not involved in the competition), the amout one contributes influences who wins. It discouraged me a bit but I just continued rating the dancers based on the criteria they supposedly set. They still did the interview portion but one would notice that the people they want to win were asked additional questions unlike the other dancers. Anyway, I did stay to the end - I believe I was the only judge left in the bar and just a few tables were still occupied. And as expected, (It was revealed by the dancers I was able to talk to during the night) the one they said was going to win did win.
All in all, a different experience. I enjoyed it though and if I was going back to the same gay bar, this would be it. They had a higher entrance fee but it was worth it especially with their big night. The place was well ventilated, even if the place got full. The guys were more than your average joes. They were not just picked up from the streets. They knew how to dance and they gave their all when they were on the stage. For me it was time and money well spent.

With this particlar bar, when they say it is a big night, they do deliver. Hoping when they do hold a different kind of big night, I am able to visit them.

How was your Saturday?





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13 Different Types of Bisexuality

According to J.R. Little, bisexuals can be categorized in terms of their sexual desires and experiences and include:

Alternating Bisexuals – one relationship at a time, the first might be exclusively straight, the next exclusively gay and vice versa. Alternating Bisexuals are usually monogamous.

Circumstantial Bisexuals – primarily heterosexual but bisexual because of circumstances, eg; Prison where there are no women/men available.

Concurrent relationship Bisexuals – have a primary relationship with one gender, but may have multiple casual relationships with partners of the other gender.

Conditional Bisexuals – will switch sexuality for personal gain, eg: Gay for Pay.

Emotional Bisexuals – have intimate emotional relationships with both genders but only have sex with one gender.

Integrated Bisexuals – have two or more concurrent primary relationships one with a man one with a woman.

Exploratory Bisexuals – testing the water seeing if they like it.

Hedonistic Bisexuals -primarily straight or gay/lesbian but will switch purely for sexual pleasure.

Recreational Bisexuals – bi only when drunk or high. “Party Bisexual”.

Isolated Bisexuals – currently straight or gay/lesbian – but has had one off sexual encounter in the past which qualifies them as bisexual.

Latent Bisexuals – has strong yet so far unsatisfied urges to go the other way.

Motivational Bisexuals – will go bi to satisfy a partner, e.g. straight women agreeing to an MFF threesome.

Transitional Bisexuals – the only type of bisexuality the gay community understands, the one “going through a phase”.

So, which type are you?

Sexy Joeffrey Javier

And since I was rummaging through the old files of our film "Huling Halik" which was shot two years ago in Baguio, I might as well share with you some unreleased photos of Joeffrey Javier, one of our leads.
Joeff, according to his co-workers is one of the kindest people they have worked with. He usually is a quiet guy and would never impose himself on anyone. And according to the gay people around him, he was never abusive unlike some of his colleagues.

Paano Maiiwasan at Malulunasan ang Tulo o Gonorrhea?

Ang sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs) ay mga sakit na maaaring mahawa sa anumang uri ng pakikipagtalik o sexual contact. Isang halimbawa ng STD ay ang Tulo/gonorrhea. Ang tulo, na may siyentipikong taguri na gonorrhea, ay isang uri ng sakit na makukuha makaraang makipagtalik sa tao na may impeksiyon nito. Malimit itong tawaging “tulo” dahil sa nanang lumalabas sa titi o puke ng maysakit.

Ang sanhi ng 'tulo' ay ang bacteria na Neisseria gonorrhoeae, kaya ito ay tinatawag na sakit na "Gonorrhea". Gaya nang nabanggit, ito ay maaaring mahawa sa pamamagitan ng anumang uri na pakikipagtalik. Dahil ito'y maaaring walang sintomas o senyales, posibleng makipagtalik nang hindi nalalaman na may tulo o gonorrhea pala ang katalik.
Ito ang mga sintomas ng tulo sa lalaki:

1. Pagdanas ng kirot o hapdi sa bayag o titi tuwing iihi
2. Pagnanana ng titi
3. Makirot na pag-ihi (minsan hindi na talaga makaihi)
4. Lagnat (sa ibang kaso lamang)

Makalipas ang ilang buwan o taon, maaaring makaranas ng pamamaga ng tuhod o kasukasuan ang maysakit, bukod pa ang iba pang karamdaman.

Ang nakakatakot sa tulo o gonorrhea ay ang mga complication; maaaring ipanganak na bulag o may problema sa mata ang isang sanggol kung nagkaroon ng tulo ay kanyang nanay habang siya ay pinagbubuntis. Maaari ring magdulot ng isang malalang impeksyon (pelvic inflammatory disease) sa mga babae. Sa lalake naman, maaaring ma-impeksyon ang prostate o ang epididymis na bahagi ng dinadaanan ng semilya. Sa ibang tao, nagiging sanhi ito ng PAGKABAOG.

Dahil nakakahiyang pag-usapan, maraming mga STDs na inililihim at hindi ikinokonsulta. Ang nangyayari ay paggagamot sa sarili o self-medication. Ngunit hindi ito magandang gawin. Una sa lahat, tama nga ba ang iyong haka-haka kung ano nga ba talaga ang iyong karamdaman? Paano kung magkamali ka? Huwag mahiyang lumapit sa doktor sapagkat ang mga doktor ay may prinipsyo ng "confidentiality" na nagsasabing hindi kailanman maaring ipagkalat ng doktor ang anumang sasabihin mo sa kanya.

Ano ang gamot sa tulo o gonorrhea? Antibiotiko o antibiotics ang solusyon. Kinakailangang ipatingin sa doktor kung anong uri ng antibiotiko at gaanong kadami at gaanong kadalas (dose and frequency) ng gamutan. Kung mayroon kang tulo o gonorrhea, malamang ay mayroon ring tulo ay iyong asawa o sexual partner kaya dapat siya ay ipatingin at gamutin rin.

Mas mabuting kumunsulta sa inyong doktor upang masuri kung anong tamang gamot ang maaaring gamitin at ligtas para sa inyo. Ang iyong sakit ay hinde isang karaniwang sipon o ubo lamang. Nangangailangan ito ng espesyalista sapagkat kailangan mo ng antibayotiko. Subalit ang tulo ay maraming dahilan
kaya dapat ay ang tamang gamot ang iyong inumin dahil dapat ay LUBOS kang gumaling dahil ito ay maaaring magpabalik balikat makakahawa ka ng iyong kapartner. Komunsulta agad sa doktor. Minsan kapag hindi na nakuha o tumatalab ang iniinom mong antibiotic maari kang turukan ng mas mabisang gamot (intramascular) sa bandang pige o puwitan. Masakit yun at mahal, sige ka.

Paano nga pala maiiwasan ang tulo o gonorrhea? Ang pinaka-mabuti parin ay ang pagiging matapat sa asawa, o kaya pag-iwas sa pakikipagtalik sa kung sinu-sino. Ang paggamit ng condom (safe sex) ay makakaiwas rin sa tulo o gonorrhea, ngunit hindi ito 100% na sigurado sapagkat maaari ring makuha ay gonorrhea sa pakikipaghalikan o kaya oral sex. Maaaring maipadala ang gonorea sa pamamagitan ng pagdaan sa mga mata.

Tandaan, nasa huli lagi ang pagsisisi. Kaya bago tsumupa o magpatira siguraduhing hindi ka mahahawa o makakahawa. Maging responsable tayong nilalang. At higit sa lahat maging "faithful".